This is true for many first- and second-generation Muslims and U. It is a complex balance, however, testing relations between parents and children and within new couples.Many Muslim dating and marriage traditions exist to promote sexual reserve, particularly among women, but in 2008, separation between potential mates has lost its cultural moorings."It's my obligation to shift a little, to give a little because it's important for them to stay within the faith," she said.

"Generation gaps, cultural differences when people from the United States marry someone from overseas, interfaith marriage -- the issue of marriage is one of the most important in Islam here right now," Magid said.

"Anytime there is a program at the mosque about these things, it's completely packed." A commonly discussed problem is the surplus of single Muslim women.

Many African American Muslims are converts and do not have Muslim relatives who can help with the process.

A few years ago, Magid, imam of the All Dulles Area Muslim Society in Sterling, started something new: required premarital counseling for people who marry at the mosque.

This stems partly from Islamic practice's broader acceptance of men marrying outside the faith than women.

Daisy Khan, a New York activist who counsels couples with her husband, an imam, organized a Valentine's Day event for singles -- 15 men and 63 women attended.

All of you shall repent to GOD, O you believers, that you may succeed.

Qur'an, Among His proofs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility and contentment with each other, and He placed in your hearts love and care towards your spouses.

Islam has given this freedom of choice to both young men and women - they cannot be forced into a marriage that they don't want.