Enter Eve, pro-creation, and marriage (not necessarily in that order). And the most intimate community on earth is the relationship you will have with your spouse. Disclaimer: If you are single (or if you’re married), steward your time well. “Sex before marriage is bad.” This was the extent of my understanding of Christian dating as a teenager and young adult. But understand purity begins with the mind and heart.

You might get into a relationship with someone who loves Jesus, meets the values you have in a future spouse, and is compatible with you. Just end the relationship, and continue to seek the Lord. Again, please don’t be a freakish weirdo and give Christians a negative label. My wife loves the Lord, and I can say with all certainty I wouldn’t be following Jesus without her. It’s dangerous riding on the road to marriage without an idea of where you are going. Don’t sit someone down on the first date and interview them to make sure they meet all of the qualities.

But once you get into the relationship, you realize things aren’t as they seemed. Having coffee or going to eat dinner with the opposite sex is not dating. There will be days when life is crashing down, your faith is wavering, and the only thing left is your spouse. In this scenario, your spouse is there to pray for you, put his or her arm around you, and walk with you.

Some Christians take a lot of comfort in the idea that God will do the heavy lifting when it comes to dating.

God will tell them if a relationship is right, and God will end it if it's not.

I am fearful the Christian community has irresponsibly coerced men and women into marriage through cultural pressure.

If you aren’t ready for marriage, or if you do not want to get married, you are not sinning.You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.Before that, the couple has to take the initiative.Rather than directing the course of the relationship, God wants the couple to grow and learn how to make a commitment.Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn’t mean you only date one person ever. So, if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off ramp.